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ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ।
ਦਿਲ ਚਾਹਿਆ ਦੁਰਕਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ
ਧੀ ਰਾਣੀ ਮੁੜ ਬਣ ਕੇ ਤੇਰੀ,ਤੇਰੀ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਆਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ.........
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ਕਿਉਂ ਪੁੱਤਰ ਤੈਨੂੰ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਲੱਗਦੇ?ਧੀਆਂ ਪੱਥਰ ਭਾਰੇ ਲੱਗਦੇ?
ਪੁੱਤਰ-ਧੀ ਦਾ ਫ਼ਰਕ ਨਾ ਕੋਈ,ਧੀ ਜੰਮਣ ਦਾ ਹਿਰਖ਼ ਨਾ ਕੋਈ।
ਦੇ ਕੇ ਹੋਕਾ ਜੱਗ ਵਿੱਚ ਸਾਰੇ,ਜੱਗ ਨੂੰ ਇਹ ਸਮਝਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ..........

ਜੱਗ ਵੇਖਣ ਦੀ ਰੀਝ ਸੀ ਮੇਰੀ।ਆਸਮਾਨ ‘ਤੇ ਨੀਝ ਸੀ ਮੇਰੀ।
ਕਲਪਨਾ-ਚਾਵਲਾ ਬਣ ਮੈਂ ਅੰਮੀਏਂ, ਧਰਤ ਦਾ ਗੇੜਾ ਲਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਪੂਰੀ ਗਈ ਰੀਝ ਜਦ ਮੇਰੀ, ਤੇਰਾ ਨਾਂ ਚਮਕਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ..........

ਤੂੰ ਵੀ ਔਰਤ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ ਔਰਤ, ਫਿਰ ਕਿਉਂ ਨਫ਼ਰਤ ਮੈਨੂੰ ਕਰਦੀ?
ਮੇਰੇ ਜਨਮ ‘ਤੇ ਫਿਰ ਕਿਉਂ ਮਾਏਂ ਲੰਮੇ ਲੰਮੇ ਹੌਕੇ ਭਰਦੀ?
ਤੇਰੇ ਏਦਾਂ ਕਰਨ ‘ਤੇ ਅੰਮੀਏ ਮੈਂ ਤਾਂ ਬਾਜ ਨਾ ਆਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ..........



ਕਿਉਂ ਐਵੇਂ ਤੂੰ ਜ਼ਿੱਦ ਪਈ ਕਰਦੀ, ਮੇਰੇ ਵਾਂਗੂੰ ਤਿਲ ਤਿਲ ਮਰਦੀ?
ਧਰਤੀ ਔਰਤ ਜਣਨ ਹਾਰੀਆਂ, ਏਸੇ ਲਈ ਗੁਰਾਂ ਸਤਿਕਾਰੀਆਂ।
ਲੈ ਕੇ ਚਾਨਣ ਵਿਦਿਆ ਵਾਲਾ ਕੁਲ਼੍ਹ ਦਾ ਨਾਂ ਚਮਕਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ..........

ਐ! ਦੁਨੀਆਂ ਦੇ ਗਾਫ਼ਿਲ ਲੋਕੋ ਕੱਲ੍ਹ ਬਾਰੇ ਵੀ ਕੁਝ ਤਾਂ ਸੋਚੋ।
ਧਰਤ ‘ਚੋਂ ਜੇਕਰ ਮੁੱਕ ਗਿਆ ਪਾਣੀ, ਕੁੱਖਾਂ ਵਿੱਚੋਂ ਜੇ ਧੀ-ਧਿਆਣੀ।
ਕਿੱਦਾਂ ਪੁਤ ਵਿਆਹਵੋਗੇ,ਕਿਹਨੂੰ ਨਹੁੰ ਬਣਾਵੋਗੇ?
ਕਿਉਂ ਸਮਝ ਨਹੀਂ ਤੈਨੂੰ ਪੈਂਦੀ,’ਤੀਰ’ ਤੋਂ ਸਿੱਖਿਆਂ ਕਿਉਂ ਨਹੀਂ ਲੈਂਦੀ?
ਜੱਗ ਤੇ ਰੌਲਾ ਪਾ ਕੇ ਮੈ ਵੀ ਵਾਰ ਵਾਰ ਸਮਝਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ..........

ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ।
ਦਿਲ ਚਾਹਿਆ ਦੁਰਕਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ
ਧੀ ਰਾਣੀ ਮੁੜ ਬਣ ਕੇ ਤੇਰੀ,ਤੇਰੀ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਆਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਤੇਰੇ ਵਰਗੀ ਜਿੱਦੀ ਹਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਵੀ,ਧੀ ਤੇਰੀ ਅਖਵਾਵਾਂਗੀ।
ਬੇਸ਼ਕ ਕੁੱਖ ‘ਚ ਮਾਰ ਲੈ ਅੰਮੀਏ........

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Friends of Keenan and Reuben launch website to report eve-teasing

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Mumbai can't call itself a safe city for women

BLASTS, riots and terror attacks have been unsuccessful in taking the sheen off Maximum City. But a demon lurking within may just be able to do that.

Mumbai was always touted as a "safe city" for women. But with growing cases of eve-teasing and assaults on people who protest this evil, it may soon lose this tag.

Following the murders of two young men for protesting a woman friend being harassed, the city's citizens have initiated several campaigns to make their intolerance for eve-teasing clear. But even as the police are forming squads to nab eve-teasers and opening up helpline numbers, as many as three cases of eve-teasing in the past one week have created a sense of insecurity among the women.

In a fresh incident, the police on Saturday arrested three men from suburban Juhu for allegedly misbehaving with a girl and attacking another who confronted them.

Lakhan Devendra, Tambi Devendra and Shiva Devendra began harassing a girl on Thursday night near an ice cream shop in Juhu. When eyewitness Ajay Hogade intervened, he was thrashed. His sister Rupali too protested the harassment of the other girl. These men then attacked her and bit off a portion of her thumb. The police finally arrested the trio following Rupali’s complaint.

In a similar case, an eve-teaser slashed off the finger of a man in Dombivli who objected to his wife being harassed. Bipin Dalani, 46, was allegedly attacked by Maruti Mane on Thursday after the former protested the harassment of his wife Kavita. Mane is absconding even as the police have registered a complaint against him.

Both these instances have brought back the bitter memory of the brutal murders of Reuben Fernandez and Keenan Santos on October 20. The boys were attacked by group of men in Andheri with choppers after they objected to the men harassing one of their women friends and Keenan’s girlfriend.

Keenan died on the spot, while Reuben succumbed to his injuries a few days later.

The rising incidents of eveteasing have left women feeling insecure. Samantha Pinto, an IT professional, said: "Though Mumbai is safer than many other cities, it can no longer be considered absolutely safe.

Hooligans in crowded trains and railway platforms think they can get away with anything. We need a better police mechanism.” The city youth have formed groups on social networking sites demanding stricter laws and modifications of sections in the Indian Penal Code dealing with harassment of women.

Individual police zones under the city commissionerate have also launched their own actions against miscreants.

DCP Vishwas Nagre Patil of the Western Zone set up a special squad last week to round up people who harass women.

Within four days of its formation, the squad had cornered over 60 people. Maharashtra's minister of state for home Satej Patil has had a text message sent to all mobile users detailing the police numbers and helplines that one can call in cases of eve- teasing. But women think this is not enough.

Ruchika Gupta, a corporate executive, said: “ Is it practical to dial a number when one is in the middle of a crisis? And, we all know how the police respond to such calls. We need better policing on the city’s roads.” But Mumbai police commissioner Arup Patnaik said although the incidents were unfortunate, it did not represent the general state of the city. “ The discussion was triggered after the Amboli attack ( which killed Reuben and Keenan), but I do not think that Mumbai is unsafe for women. We are constantly available whenever there is an emergency and all police numbers are known to the people.” The commissioner said while it was impossible to constitute a special squad with about 30 per cent of the force to take care of the menace, DCPs in some zones had taken steps to curb this menace.

"But I want to assure the women citizens in the city that the police are always there to help and safeguard them in need,” he added.


source:http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/mumbai-can-t-call-itself-a-safe-city-for-women.html

11,000 college students to work as 'save girl sainiks'

CHANDIGARH: Worried over the " missing girls", red cross societies in Haryana will train over 11,000 college students, preferably girls, as "save girl sainiks" to launch a campaign against female foeticide in the state known for a skewed gender ratio in the country.
The details of these sainks, including their photographs and bio-data, will be displayed on the website of red cross societies to keep in touch with them even after they leave their respective institutions. To train the sainiks seminars will be organized in colleges and experts will give them tips to motivate parents to save the girl child.
"With this move, at least these 11,000 sainiks won't indulge in female foeticide," said Shyam Sunder, media advisor of Haryana Red Cross Society adding that each sainik would get an identity card. "These students will turn into parents in coming years and we hope that they won't forget the importance of girls. As parents, they will be in a position to make a change by deciding against gender bias," said Syham Sunder, who is also secretary of Red Cross Society, Yamunanagar.
"We will initiate this campaign from Yamunanagar," he said, adding that he has already coordinated with two colleges in this regard. During his tenure in Bhiwani as secretary, Red Cross secretary Shyam Sunder had introduced various innovative ideas like "kuan pujan" (worship of well) and "thali beating" on the birth of a girl child and an eighth "phera" while solemnizing weddings with an oath against female foeticide.
"In Bhiwani, we had received a good response from colleges in the save girl child campaign," he claimed, adding that just action against ultrasound centres won't yield good results in absence of support from the society.
About the new campaign, Haryana Red Cross state secretary G P Taneja has sent a communication to all deputy commissioners, who are presidents of district red cross societies, to initiate the campaign in their districts. "After seminars, a save girl team will be set up in each district which will work under the supervision of deputy commissioner and civil surgeon concerned," Taneja added in the communication.
Despite all efforts, the state has witnessed decline especially in the child sex ratio which is monitored on a monthly basis under central registration system (CRS) by recording birth of children. As per the complied figures of first eight months of 2011, the sex ratio is just 826 girls: 1000 boys in the age group of 0-6 years, in comparison to 833:1000 of the corresponding period in 2010 in Haryana. Even the census figures released in March this year had suggested that the state has 830 girls for each 1,000 boys in the age group of 0-6 years.

Source:  http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/11000-college-students-to-work-as-save-girl-sainiks/articleshow/10650782.cms 

"Wife-sharing" haunts Indian villages as girls decline

By Nita Bhalla

BAGHPAT, India (TrustLaw) - When Munni arrived in this fertile, sugarcane-growing region of north India as a young bride years ago, little did she imagine she would be forced into having sex and bearing children with her husband's two brothers who had failed to find wives.

"My husband and his parents said I had to share myself with his brothers," said the woman in her mid-40s, dressed in a yellow sari, sitting in a village community centre in Baghpat district in Uttar Pradesh.

"They took me whenever they wanted -- day or night. When I resisted, they beat me with anything at hand," said Munni, who had managed to leave her home after three months only on the pretext of visiting a doctor.

"Sometimes they threw me out and made me sleep outside or they poured kerosene over me and burned me."

Such cases are rarely reported to police because women in these communities are seldom allowed outside the home unaccompanied, and the crimes carry deep stigma for the victims. So there may be many more women like Munni in the mud-hut villages of the area.

Munni, who has three sons from her husband and his brothers, has not filed a police complaint either.

Social workers say decades of aborting female babies in a deeply patriarchal culture has led to a decline in the population of women in some parts of India, like Baghpat, and in turn has resulted in rising incidents of rape, human trafficking and the emergence of "wife-sharing" amongst brothers.

Aid workers say the practice of female foeticide has flourished among several communities across the country because of a traditional preference for sons, who are seen as old-age security.

"We are already seeing the terrible impacts of falling numbers of females in some communities," saysBhagyashri Dengle, executive director of children's charity Plan India.

"We have to take this as a warning sign and we have to do something about it or we'll have a situation where women will constantly be at risk of kidnap, rape and much, much worse."

SECRET PRACTICES

Just two hours drive from New Delhi, with its gleaming office towers and swanky malls, where girls clad in jeans ride motor bikes and women occupy senior positions in multi-nationals, the mud-and-brick villages of Baghpat appear a world apart.

Here, women veil themselves in the presence of men, are confined to the compounds of their houses as child bearers and home makers, and are forbidden from venturing out unaccompanied.

Village men farm the lush sugarcane plantations or sit idle on charpoys, or traditional rope beds, under the shade of trees in white cotton tunics, drinking tea, some smoking hookah pipes while lamenting the lack of brides for their sons and brothers.

The figures are telling.

According to India's 2011 census, there are only 858 women to every 1,000 men in Baghpat district, compared to the national sex ratio of 940.

Child sex ratios in Baghpat are even more skewed and on the decline with 837 girls in 2011 compared to 850 in 2001 -- a trend mirrored across districts in states such as Haryana, Punjab, Rajasthan and Gujarat.

"In every village, there are at least five or six bachelors who can't find a wife. In some, there are up to three or four unmarried men in one family. It's a serious problem," says Shri Chand, 75, a retired police constable.

"Everything is hush, hush. No one openly admits it, but we all know what is going on. Some families buy brides from other parts of the country, while others have one daughter-in-law living with many unwedded brothers."

Women from other regions such as Jharkhand and West Bengal speak of how their poor families were paid sums of as little as 15,000 rupees ($300) by middle-men and brought here to wed into a different culture, language and way of life.

"It was hard at first, there was so much to learn and I didn't understand anything. I thought I was here to play," said Sabita Singh, 25, who was brought from a village in West Bengal at the age of 14 to marry her husband, 19 years her elder.

"I've got used to it," she says holding her third child in her lap. "I miss my freedom."

Such exploitation of women is illegal in India, but many of these crimes are gradually becoming acceptable among such close-knit communities because the victims are afraid to speak out and neighbours unwilling to interfere.

Some villagers say the practice of brothers sharing a wife has benefits, such as the avoidance of division of family land and other assets amongst heirs.

Others add the shortage of women has, in fact, freed some poor families with daughters from demands for substantial dowries by grooms' families.

Social activists say nothing positive can be derived from the increased exploitation of women, recounting cases in the area of young school girls being raped or abducted and auctioned off in public.

UNABATED ABORTIONS

Despite laws making pre-natal gender tests illegal, India's 2011 census indicated that efforts to curb female foeticide have been futile.

While India's overall female-to-male ratio marginally improved since the last census in 2001, fewer girls were born than boys and the number of girls under six years old plummeted for the fifth decade running.

A May study in the British medical journal Lancet found that up to 12 million Indian girls were aborted over the last three decades -- resulting in a skewed child sex ratio of 914 girls to every 1,000 boys in 2011 compared with 962 in 1981.

Sons, in traditionally male-dominated regions, are viewed as assets -- breadwinners who will take care of the family, continue the family name, and perform the last rites of the parents, an important ritual in many faiths.

Daughters are seen as a liability, for whom families have to pay substantial wedding dowries. Protecting their chastity is a major concern as instances of pre-marital sex are seen to bring shame and dishonour on families.

Women's rights activists say breaking down these deep-rooted, age-old beliefs is a major challenge.

"The real solution is to empower girls and women in every way possible," says Neelam Singh, head of Vatsalya, an NGO working on children's and women's issues.

"We need to provide them with access to education, healthcare and opportunities which will help them make decisions for themselves and stand up to those who seek to abuse or exploit them."

(TrustLaw is a global news service on women's rights and good governance run by Thomson Reuters Foundation. For more information see www.trust.org/trustlaw)

(Editing by Sugita Katyal)

Phul Kumari, 25, stands with her child in front of a window in a village community centre in Baghpat district, located in Uttar Pradesh October 18, 2011. REUTERS/TrustLaw/Nita Bhalla


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